“I wish I never met you”. Strong words…words spoken in anger or revenge. Words I wish I could take back for every time I’ve screamed them. I try to look back upon my life with no regrets.
Many people have come and gone in my life….strangers, coworkers, Friends, family, lovers. Some of these people have stayed long, others have shared a mere minute with me. Some leave without warning, some leave with angry words, some have left with tears and hugs. Some are gone before I even realized they were there. Each and every time someone exits my life, I have a hard time. If I have one fear which strangles me more than any other, it is fear of abandonment. Perhaps this fear forces me to hold on to some longer than I should. When I’ve finally gotten past the panic and anger of a lost love one, it’s only a two questions which help me to accept the hurt of being left behind. I ask myself. What have you learned? And, do you have any regrets? No matter how hard the fall out, no matter how bad I was hurt, No matter how traumatic the experience, the answers are all always the same.
I always learn a lesson. Some lessons are hard to learn. We all act as both student and teacher in our lifetime. I believe this may sometimes be the only reason a being has entered our life…to teach us a lesson. Some lessons are easy. The may sometimes seem simple, the impact they may have at another time or space can have great magnitude. In my experience, the harder the lesson, the more volatile the end. Learning to let go, learning to love…these are 2 of the greatest lessons I’ve been taught. I learned these lessons in the least desirable of conditions, my sorrow of a love lost has never been deeper. Do I have regrets for sharing my life with this person? Absolutely not…for these are 2 of my greatest gifts. I realize that if I had not actually learned these lessons, I would not have fallen so low. I now have these gifts to move forward. I now know how to let go, I know how to love deeply with all of my being.
I believe my next lesson will be in accepting love.